(6.0 Self-Study CE's available for LCATs in New York State. Scroll to the bottom for details)
Are you looking for a soul-shaking, passionate partnership, but struggle to achieve self-confidence in relationships?
Do you want to reconnect with your true self-worth, reignite your life’s passion and purpose, and show up as your most authentic self, in your love life?
You’re in the right place, my friend!
This course offers 7 creative, fun, easy lessons over the course of 7 weeks, and takes you from feeling lost and confused about your romantic relationships, to stepping into your fullest and most sovereign self, without having to talk in circles around your feelings for hours (or even years) on end, with no tangible result.
Watch Kim’s inspirational story of transformation, after taking the 7 easy, FUN lessons, in my seven week signature course, Healing Attachment Wounds.
Kim struggled with depression and anxiety, as well as falling into a roller coaster relationships. Learning about the neural mechanisms of attachment, the role of complicated grief, and using body activating experientials, were Kim’s favorite aspects of the program.
A quote from Kim…
“This program has done for me in 7 weeks what years of self-help books and cognitive therapy couldn’t do.”
"Briana MacWilliam is the kind of teacher who gets down to the bone where the blood is hot and running. She will never point to a thing when she can show you it...Ms. MacWilliam is a challenger and comforter, a guide and a companion. She knows when to comfort and when to confront and most of all she has the timing of a professional actor. She knows when to drop the important stuff and she drops it on you form her own experiential core. She does not take you anywhere she is not willing to travel herself. She has a combination of grace and grit that make her a fantastic teacher and a fabulous clinician."
"I am astounded by Briana's video series on attachment. This comes from someone (albeit a layman) who has read voraciously on the subject for 7 years now. There is insight and detailed explanations that simply can't be found anywhere except in her videos...She should have a cable show. The level of clarity provided is beyond anything I've seen."
If you always seem to find yourself back in those same old patterns, with partners that…
-Don’t appreciate you, and take your generosity for granted
-Show up with fireworks one day, and then disappear without explanation the next
-Treat you like an intimate partner, but don’t give you any physical intimacy
-Or they only seem to be interested in sex, but exclude you from other aspects of their lives
-Avoid labeling the relationship and make you feel neurotic for needing it
-Behave in a needlessly secretive fashion
Or maybe your partner is…
-Intrusive and over-controlling
-Monitors every move you make
-Has high demands and never gives you any space
-Takes everything personally, and over analyzes everything you say
-Interprets most situations in the negative
-Presses for too much too fast
-Doesn’t respect your boundaries or a need for space
-Expects you to read their mind, and blows up when you don’t
-Is hot one minute and cold the next
You may unwittingly be caught in a roller coaster relationship fueled by one of three insecure attachment styles.
Your attachment style is basically the way in which you learned how to experience and express your love.
For individuals with insecure attachment, this may be experienced with a hefty dose of ambivalence about how much closeness and intimacy you really need and want in your partnerships.
Have you ever thought to yourself...
"I know this relationship is unhealthy, but I cannot leave this person. Why am I so afraid of being alone? What's wrong with me?"
Or perhaps you've felt...
"I am attracted to my partner and I think I love them, but anytime we get close I start to feel suffocated and like they are trying to control me. I just don't think I am cut out for relationships."
Understanding your attachment style and the impact this has on you mentally, physically, emotionally AND spiritually, is essential to stepping into your life as a CREATOR of it, rather than just as a survivor of it.
1. Attachment, Complicated Grief and Addiction: Illuminating the Intersections
This first lesson takes you from feeling confused and oblivious to consciously aware of the negative impact complicated grief and short term escapes may have had on your attachment relationships.
2. Transforming Anxious Feelings
In this lesson you learn how to use natural imagery to organize your feelings in a non-threatening way, this takes you from feeling overwhelmed by and fearful of your feelings, to embracing them as important communicators of your intuition.
5. Examining our Love Patterns
In this lesson you learn six signs of the anxious avoidant trap and the role of fantasy in “push-pull” relationships. This takes you from blindly falling into toxic situations, to being able to identify your patterns in love, and consciously extract meaning from them.
3. The Origins of Attachment
In this lesson we examine parenting styles that impact specific attachment styles, which takes you from idealizing and romanticizing your childhood, to more compassionately understanding why and how you may have accumulated some emotional and energetic baggage that simply does not belong to you.
4. Brain Chemistry and Relationships
In this lesson, you learn about the impact of attention deficit, and five core brain systems on how you may be relating to your partners. This takes you from feeling angry, resentful or baffled by your partner’s behavior, to patient, accepting and aware of what makes them tick.
6. Shedding Self Fulfilling Prophecies
In this lesson you learn about two types of limiting beliefs and how these may be preventing you from finding the love you want. This transforms your mindset from being locked in a cycle of self sabotage, to shedding those self fulfilling prophecies and opening yourself up to love.
7. Reclaiming the Sacred Body
In this lesson, I share a personal and experiential example of how to use embodied arts-based approaches to working with unprocessed rage, and the energy tied up in it. I also share with you an inspirational case study of a client that has applied these practices in her life. You are then taken on a guided journey to recover split off aspects of your emotional body. This takes you from feeling fearful and disconnected from your body, to standing sovereign in your sacred temple, ready to give and receive love, beyond insecurity.
Most people know EXACTLY what their issues are, so insight is NOT a problem for them. BREAKING the PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL ADDICTION they have to reliving and attracting that same romantic scenario over and over again--that's the real rub.
In my practice, I like to play with metaphor, mindfulness, and energetic activation in the body, which includes surrendering to the moment and embracing what is without feeling pressured to change it.
Here's how it works, in only two simple steps...
1. With a blend of guided meditation and imagery, we gently titrate all that anxious energy stored up in your body and neural pathways surrounding your attachment experiences. This creates enough spaciousness in the body and in the brain to build NEW neural networks, in a healthier framework, using the language of the body and the unconscious.
2. To stimulate and activate your intellect and your creativity (which is usually a strength of people with attachment wounds!) I also provide demonstrations and psycho-educational videos and tutorials to help you re-frame your experiences. This helps you to see your triggers and put the breaks on before you end up driving over that cliff again!
Basically, this course brings your mind and your body into couples therapy, and teaches each party how to communicate in each other's language. And it all starts with knowing where you are on your romantic journey...
In the wandering phase, you are typically led by compulsion. There is not much reflection on HOW you feel, only THAT you feel and you want to act on your impulses. You tend not to have a clear picture in your head of what a healthy relationship looks like, and so you tend to have the attitude, "I'll know it when I see it."
You need to believe you are justified in this and tend to cling to fantasies about what the relationship or your partner could be, versus what it actually is.
You struggle with listening to the little voice inside that keeps telling you its unhealthy, but you are not able or unwilling to take action to change your circumstances.
Growth in this phase is typically painful. It usually involves more than one hard lesson learned after the other, before we are willing to step into the phase of the explorer. But some people will remain in this phase their whole lives.
In the exploring phase, you may be feeling raw and a bit wounded from wandering. You are starting to explore and question your feelings, rather than simply acting on them, because you are fearful of getting hurt again. You are now much more intentional with how you respond to your feelings.
You feel an urgent need for answers and/or solutions. You may start to read self help books or seek out counseling and therapy. This provides some relief, but not as much as you want.
You continue to struggle with an underlying sense of yearning and desperation. The feelings just won’t go away, even though you may have gained some insight into them. And continue to actively seek tools and resources.
Growth in this phase revolves around expanding consciousness and building a vocabulary for feeling states and coping skills. Realizing that quick fixes are not the solution.
In the discovery phase, much of the knowledge and research you have done starts to synthesize. You manage to create some spaciousness around your feelings and the yearnings are not so poignant anymore; they are now understood in their proper context. You also are more willing to sit with uncomfortable feelings.
You want to connect with your own body, and delve into a deeper sense of spirituality. You have explored the hard sciences, and this offers some solace, but now you are searching for a deeper sense of meaning for what you’ve experienced.
In this phase, old stuff that you thought you’d processed may resurface, and you may struggle with feelings of failure or thinking you’ve regressed or relapsed.
Growth in this phase revolves around the recognition that old stuff comes up because you are now strong enough to process it with a new level of sophistication, one that fosters in spiritual maturity you seek, in addition to the expansion of consciousness.
In the loving phase, you have come to a place of understanding and forgiveness towards yourself, and towards previous partners. There is a sense of resilience that makes you feel fully sovereign in your mental, emotional, and spiritual body.
A this time, you may want and need to reconnect with people, and possibly a new partner or current partner, on a more authentic and intimate level. Your openness to give and receive love has expanded with increasing self love and acceptance. You feel like It’s time to take off the training wheels and try again.
There may be lingering doubts or fears that this new level of connection could trigger old patterns of relating; however these fears are not debilitating. You feel capable of managing them well enough to move forward.
Growth in this phase revolves around implementing the skills you have learned; including prioritizing self care, maintaining a spiritual practice, creating genuine and authentic space for a respectful and healthy partner in your life, letting go of judgment, and assuming the authority you have to be a co-creator in your relationships.
Knowing where you may be on your romantic journey takes you from being confused and oblivious, to consciously aware of the impact attachment styles may have had on your romantic relationships. This is important because once you understand yourself in context, you start to understand where to dig deeper.
"Wow! I am catching my breath and wiping my tears...What an incredible class, thank you so much."
"This was amazing! I am so inspired by the vulnerability present here within the videos! As a Dance/Movement Therapist, I was definitely acknowledging how moved I was...which because it is integrated into my body, I will definitely remember it."
"This reminded me about the depths of attunement and understanding that are needed to facilitate true healing. It's weird how easy it is to forget that! I'll definitely be revisiting my counseling approach with some clients - finding, in particular, where self-compassion should be prioritized over self-esteem."
What are the benefits?
In a nutshell, healthier relationships. But honestly, that doesn’t go far enough. What does a "healthier relationship" LOOK like? What do people in healthy relationships do?
-Communicate in ways that promote mirroring, empathy and validation
-Listen to their partners, and express themselves with authenticity
-Use the word “love” with sincerity and a depth of meaning
-Do what they say, and say what they mean
-Make time during every day to pay at least one hour of solid, undivided attention to each other
-Plan trips and adventurous vacations together
-Read the same books and talk about them
-Plan rituals around watching your favorite TV shows together
-Divide domestic responsibilities equally and/or have a mutually agreed upon contract for how to handle the routines and everyday necessities of life…
-Give each other space and don't feel insecure or jealous about it
-Partners don't obsess over how long it takes one to text the other back
-A partner doesn't shut down or threaten to leave when the other partner "doesn't behave"
-Voicing their concerns WHEN THEY HAVE THEM, rather than pushing it down out of a fear of being too "needy" or feeling vulnerable to weakness and ultimate rejection and abandonment
I could go on, but you get the idea. Does this sound like something you can picture? More importantly, does it sound like something you want?
On a scale of 1-10, 1 being "unable", and 10 being "fully capable", how well do you think you can get their on your own?
How well do you think you can get there WITH HELP?
Let this course be your first step.
And there is absolutely NO RISK involved, with a 14 day money-back guarantee!
If you are a licensed creative arts therapist (LCAT) in the state of New York, than you are probably interested obtaining the 6.0 self-study continuing education contact hours for this course!
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A reminder about self-study and continuing education:
For LCATs in New York State, a self-study course can only equal 1/3 of the required contact hours for your license renewal. So, if your license renews in three years, you will require 36 continuing education contact hours, thus a maximum of 12 of those hours can be self-study. The rest of your contact hours must be live events. This includes online webinars, which CreativeArtsTherapiesOnline.com will be offering on a monthly basis, starting in February of 2017. All enrolled students will be updated on new live and self-study course launches. So keep an eye out for our newsletter!
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After graduating with a BFA in Illustration and a minor in psychology, Briana MacWilliam moved to New York City where she earned her Master’s in Professional Studies and Creative Arts Therapy (MPS) from Pratt Institute.
For over a decade, Ms. MacWilliam has practiced as a Licensed and Board Certified Creative Arts Therapist (ATR-BC, LCAT) in various healthcare settings throughout New York City, working predominantly with traumatized women and addiction. For the past four years, she worked as a research coordinator at the Amen Clinics Inc., an agency focused on using brain scans and SPECT technology to provide accurate diagnosis and integrative treatment for mental health problems, poor nutrition, and other obscure conditions.
Dr. Amen has been a guest on CNN, PBS, Dr. Oz, Entertainment Television, Dr. Phil, The View, TedX, Rachel Ray, Larry King, and more. To learn more about The Amen Method, which focuses on the biological, psychological, social, and spiritual aspects of life and treatment, click here. To take an online brain health assessment, click here.
Currently, in addition to private practice, Ms. MacWilliam is a professor for Pratt Institute’s Graduate Creative Arts Therapies Department, where she teaches personality development, thesis research and clinical supervision.
Writing, drawing, and painting have always been her passion, and she strongly believes in the curative powers of the creative process.
To learn more, please visit her website at brianamacwilliam.com. Or her community blog for artists and writers at Yellow Bricks. You can also follow her weekly posts on mindfulness and artmaking on Instagram or her Facebook Page.